Alexa is a military spouse of 14 years and a mother of three. Her life has been shaped by movement, across countries, across roles, and across versions of what military family life is supposed to look like. From the United Kingdom to multiple stops in Oklahoma during pilot training, she is now preparing for her family’s next chapter in Birmingham, Alabama.

Her husband previously served as an AFSOC Loadmaster and is now a KC-135 Stratotanker pilot, a transition that has brought new layers of change, identity shifts, and perspective to their family’s military journey.

Alexa is a writer focused on the parts of military life that don’t always make it into the highlight reel: identity loss, reinvention, and the quiet tension between sacrifice and expectation. Her work has been featured in The War Horse, and she is a contributor to Wives of the Armed Forces, where she writes about military spouse culture with a critical, observant lens and a refusal to romanticize what doesn’t deserve it.

When she’s not writing, she’s usually reading, baking, or trying to carve out something resembling stillness in a life that rarely offers it.